It was 1:30 in the morning and I couldn’t sleep. Not because I was in the hospital being poked and checked on every hour. Not because I just had throat surgery and was uncomfortable. I couldn’t sleep because I was in awe of God’s majesty.
He had done many miracles in the days leading up to surgery, and He’d done even more the day of surgery. And when I opened my eyes after an hour of light sleep, this is what I saw:
My husband of 10 years sleeping at the foot of my bed. Hours earlier, he had sat there, watching me repeatedly fall asleep after surgery only to wake back up when my heart rate dipped too low and set off the alarm. He spoke up to the nurses and advocated for a system that would keep me safe while allowing me to sleep. He stood guard over me until sleep finally came.
After I woke, he was still at my side. I realized he is another miracle that God had given me, and arguably one of the most important. Matt hadn’t left me. He hadn’t decided to jump ship.
After a year of watching many of our friends divorce, it was extra special to find that my husband wasn’t going to split when we went through a fight-for-my-life challenge.
Contrary to how our society lives, marriage is a lifelong commitment. It’s a covenant, not a contract. You won’t always be happy because hard times will come. You won’t agree on everything, but you love and respect each other regardless. Your spouse will never complete you because only God can do that.
Somebody once said to be the change you want to see. I want to see a nation where divorce isn’t immaterial; it’s serious. That’s why I’m not leaving or cheating on my husband. That’s why I’ll love him for the rest of my life, even on the days when love is a decision and not an emotion. Thankfully, he’s expressed the same decision about me, and I’m not always easy to live with–so God obviously gives grace.
If your marriage is lacking–or completely bankrupt–there is hope! God saves marriages. Through prayer, communication, forgiveness, empathy, and living in a place of conducting yourself with the realization that your feelings are not your reality. Sometimes counseling is necessary, and sometimes God transforms a relationship in a miraculous way that is special and unique to each family.
The best marriages are the ones submitted to Christ. Man and woman, husband and wife, seeking God’s will for them both as individuals and as a couple.
(Please note that God allows for divorce in cases of abuse and infidelity. If your (or your child’s) life is in danger, high tail it immediately!)